self care


Self-Care is a fairly new term that has exploded into a calling, a longing, an executive order, and another to do list. UGH! Who needs more to do? Don’t let it drain you.

How did this term get started anyway? It crossed over into mainstream after the 2016 election in the U.S.A. The week after that emotionally draining time Americans Googled it twice as often as they did previously.

Doctors have always used it as a prescription for patients to take good care of themselves under the guidance of a health professional. During the Civil Rights movement, it became a political act of sorts.

“Self-care” has always been around, but it hasn’t taken off as a movement until recently.

The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself – Steve Maraboli

Self-Care shouldn’t drain you.

How do you obey the principles of self-care without it killing your soul? Let’s go Biblical.

The Proverb 31 woman has a calling to take care of everyone. She rises early and her light doesn’t go out at night. She wakes while it is night to prepare bread for her family. She opens her hand to the poor.

The poor lady never sleeps! She is on a course to crash and burn.

She is a manifestation of everything good. It is not intended for her good deeds to be a laundry list in your life.

Don’t you want to hate her because you can’t keep up? I relate to her because I am a doer.

I struggle to take care of myself emotionally, but I can take care of myself physically.

Our manifestation of the Proverb 31 woman is mixed up. Let’s put it back in perspective.

Self-Care shouldn’t drain you.

Physical Self-Care

That’s my specialty, and I’m here with tips to help.

Monitor your food and water intake.

Food can be a glorious adventure and it is easy to overdo a good thing. Apps like MyPlate, MyFitnessPal, LoseIt!, and FatSecret make it easy to monitor food intake.

When your food intake is available as a quick glance from your pocket it is easier to steer away from food that takes you away from your goals. Here’s a little more info about what they can offer.

Drink water.

Drinking water is boring and not much fun at all. The old adage is out. You’ve probably heard drinking eight 8-ounce glasses of water daily is good for your health. That’s a good place to start, and newer information says the old adage falls short.

Men should drink a minimum of 13 cups of water a day, while women should drink a minimum of 9 cups. Generally speaking, children should be drinking around 64 ounces of water.

Suggestions change for people in different stages of health, pregnancy, increased exercise, and illness such as flu. Health enthusiasts aim for a gallon day.

If water is too boring try infusing it with fruit or cucumber.

water is boring

Get adequate sleep.

So much to do, so little time. If this is the story of your life you’re probably like most people who fall short on getting enough sleep.

On average adults need 7-9 hours each night, young children and teens need 8-10 hours, while infants and toddlers need in excess of 12 hours each day.

Electronics keep people more connected than ever and the blue light keeps brains stimulated making sleep difficult to achieve. Turn off the electronica an hour before bed or use Blublocker glasses to minimize stimulation.

Meditate and be grateful.

Start and end each day in the right mindset. Take 10 minutes to breathe and clear your mind. Set your focus on something deserving of gratitude.

When your mindset is fruitful your day is fruitful. Other reasons to meditate include lower stress, better connections with people, and a reduction of brain chatter.

Love yourself first, and everything else falls in line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. – Lucille Ball

Get physical.

If exercise isn’t easy for you let’s keep it simple. Here’s a list of the best free exercise apps for 2017. Experts suggest 30 minutes a day of cardio.

Anything that gets your blood pumping will do, and it doesn’t have to happen all at one time. Run the steps at work, during lunch, and at the end of the day. Take a brisk walk first thing in the morning or after dinner.

Find an activity you enjoy, and invite a friend for accountability. Keep it simple and enjoy the benefits.

Give your stress wings, and let it fly away. – Terri Guillemets

Won’t you share your plan to approach self-care in the comments?

*Article first published as a guest post on Connecting People to Love that Heals